So today, 23 July 2018 marks exactly two months to my thirtieth birthday. And I felt the need to blog about my journey from the ever loving twenties to the thirties. What is the difference between the various decades in life and how does that change you as a person?
Well firstly, it isn’t the end of life. As a contrary belief to most teens and people in their early twenties, turning 30 is really not that big of a deal or ‘bad’ in any way! Regardless of whether or not you have graduated, got your dream job or got married by then, or even earned that sum of money that you always wanted, it is all just part of life. And definitely not something to be wasted.
No offense to anyone in their 30’s or older, but when I was younger I felt that turning 30 and older did meant the end of your fun years, youth and free spirit. And so, when planning out my life goals, wishes and desires, well, I just didn’t plan anything over 30. Yeah that was rather dumb of me, but on the other hand, it also means that at present I am literally going with the flow. No hard core plans, no deadlines of when and how I want things to happen, nothing. And you know what, it feels good!
What I have learnt over the past 10 years?
Life does always happens as planned. Heck mine hasn’t happened as planned at all. But slowly and with effort, consistency and passion, I did live some of my dreams and it felt great!
Learn to get up, every time. There are many things that happen which might make us feel hurt, sad or just down right depressed. Life might not work out the way we wanted it to and we might feel like everything is just crushing down. But regardless of what happened, learn to get up. Try again. Don’t be that person in your last days of life, battling sickness, or poverty only wishing what you could have done in the time and days that you had. Be that person who gets up, and tries again. Try until it works out. Try until you get it right. Try now!
Each decade of our lives is special and unique. Each decade will bring to us unique experiences, happiness and sorrow, which we might not face in the previous or next decade. So, cherish each decade, each year, month, week and day that passes you by. For those experiences might not come again.
For example, in my earlier twenties I was faced with a lot of financial issues. No matter how much I tried to work harder in my field of work, or look for jobs that will treat me well, I was just not financially okay. But that doesn’t mean that I will continue to be faced with those issues throughout my life. That is, if I grow from that experience, and become a better person from it. How the heck does one do that? Well, for me personally, I realised that no matter how hard I tried, financial issues were still present and a job was not the answer. So, I turned to the next best step and that was to open my own business. And of course with that comes a new ball game, but at least it is worth it.
Don’t carry issues from one decade to the next. Okay so actually I mean don’t carry issues from one day to the next. It is always good to solve issues as soon as possible. But for those who experience a certain issue through a certain phase in their life, try to deal with it and let go as life goes on. But think about it, things which might have felt like a huge problem in our teens, might have felt like a by the way thing in our twenties. Things which we have had issues with in our twenties, (like financial stability or maturity) might not be such a big issue to people in their thirties. I am not saying that life miraculously changes as the decades go by, but our approach to things do change and that makes all the difference!
Some years ago, people in their twenties were married, earning well and already built families. By 30, their kids where already pre-teens and by 40’s their kids where in high school, and in their 50’s there where sending their kids to university while looking at the occasional overseas trips and wanting grandkids! Life is oh so not like that anymore. Life simply does not happen that way anymore and people in their 20’s are still battling to find their feet, let alone be financially secure or are able to get married.
So, all what I have learnt so far and of course I am still learning and wanted to share with you, is to treasure each moment, each experience (good and bad), learn from it and carry on. Life doesn’t end when a certain decade ends or when the body feels weak or hair starts to grey. It only ends when we give up the will to live, to love and to try again.
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