“Forgiveness” Is one of thee most misunderstood words. People so often throw the word around, tell people to forgive others of their wrong doings, but with the same breathe, they also encourage them not to “forget” what has happened…
But isn’t part of forgiveness also means forgetting? What is the point to forgive someone for some wrong they have done, if that memory is still ever fresh in your mind? And if we keep it in our mind and keep on thinking about how that person has wronged us, does it mean that we actually did forgive them? Or are we just reliving those painful moments over and over again because of the reoccurring thoughts we have?
There is immense power in forgiveness. Forgiveness, like selfless love, is a sign of abundant love, kindness and compassion.
If someone hurts us, and the very next moment they require help from us, will we help them? Or will we refuse to be of assistance because they have wronged us? And if we choose not to help them, then are we really compassionate human beings?
Forgive people for all the wrong they have done to you (or you feel they have done to you). Actually maybe writing it down would be better.
Write down all the wrong things that people have done to you, along with the persons name, and how you feel they have hurt you.
Then make a mental and emotional statement to forgive them. Why? Because why the heck would you want to carry around that mental and emotional burden of betrayal or whatever negative feeling you have?
Forgive them because you have abundant love on your side and because you CHOOSE to allow abundant love to heal you.
Forgive even if they don’t care to seek your forgiveness, even if they don’t even know nor care that they have hurt you. Forgive each person who has wronged you. And then immediately forget the wrong they have done to you. Throw that paper away and let that feelings of pain and hurt, also be thrown away.
Now I did say forget what had happened, but I didn’t say allow it to happen again.
Forgive, then forget the situation. But allow it to grow you as an individual. Change yourself for the better. If a situation created you to be stronger or more mature than before, then grow in that way. Always giving thanks to the person who has wronged you, as if it weren’t for their negative action in your life, you might not have got the opportunity to grow in that point in time. But being thankful doesn’t mean you have to go on your knees and be at their mercy or feel insecure or insignificant because they have power over you.
In fact people only have power over you when you choose to allow their negative thoughts, actions or impact they have on you, to determine your worth.
People only have power over you when you choose to allow their negative thoughts, actions or impact they have on you, to determine your worth.
And they also have control or power over you, if you choose to harbour ill feelings or hatred because of an unfair situation they have put you in.
Forgive because you have abundant love on your side.
Forget because you have no space in your life to store ill feelings or memories of pain, when you can fill that space with memories of love and pleasure.
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