Fear of failure or fear of success both cause one thing and that is the fear of moving forward. In taking those steps required to do the things you need to do in order to achieve that which you want to achieve.
Many people have this mind-set that they can just think, “Hey I want to own that dream house,” or “I want to earn a large amount of money.” And it will magically come true without taking any action whatsoever. Moreover people are stuck in comfort zones. Believe it or not but many prefer to be stuck in a situation of poverty than to actually take action to come out of it. This is because of comfort zones but also because besides being fearful of what may not work, people are actually fearful of what CAN work. They are scared of being successful. They wonder how they will manage their success and new found wealth (if money is part of their success wish list).
Success can be really scary, for those who do not have an actual plan of how they propose to change their lives, and implement what steps are needed to be taken.
Sometimes we fear sudden richness because of superstition that you will be faced with another ‘bad situation’ once the situation of poverty has ended. Sometimes we fear that people dear to us will scam us and run away with our new found fortune, or that people will hound you for loans or expect that you are their personal ATM.
Make a wish list of all that which you want to achieve. Be realistic with defined timelines, instead of just wanting everything to happen right away.
Start with what is most achievable at present or at soonest, and note down what steps you need to take to make that happen.
Focus on that one goal (for now) and take those little steps to make it happen. Also note down what other success can come with achieving your goal. For example, getting that promotion or higher paying job or winning the lotto, would mean also being able to spend more and own certain material possessions which you may have not been able to attain before.
Note down, how that would make you feel. Don’t just write, “I’d feel like a million buck,” but actually, how would you feel having that more money at your disposal? Is it scary? Could you sink into a world of wanting more than appreciating what you have? Could you start gambling or wasting money and find yourself in more debt due to unwise and extreme expenditure?
Then make a note of ways to actually invest or, for a lack of a better word, deal with that financial success. How would you insure that you don’t over spend or use money unwisely? What investment opportunities can you take to insure that you no longer fall into poverty situations?
All of these steps are important. We often miss these little details in our planning process and therefore the thought of success becomes a fear instead of a motivation. And that’s when the journey to the goal slowly becomes a distant dream.
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