As human beings we have this fear to HAVE to fit in with the crowd. And that could mean befriending people who don’t exactly have the same mindset or goals that you do. Which could be disastrous to you, your life goals and how you see yourself as a person.
Unfortunately peoples opinions of us do matter (and to some extent, it should not). So if we choose not to fit in with a crowd of people who don’t have the same set of values and principles as we do, there is also a sense of fear on what opinion they will have of us. Because of these fears, and need to fit in, people tend to sway towards changing their good nature, to be socially accepted by others. And then start feeling depressed or start thinking low of themselves when those same people no longer value their friendship.
This generally happens when we ‘need’ to befriend to people in power or persons of authority who have the ‘power’ to made deciding choices that directly affect our lives. Example people in high posts in businesses, organisations, private and public sector, family and friends as well. And it can also become difficult when these same people of high authority ‘expect’ favours from you in order to make decisions which are in your favour. Hmm I hope I am being clear in my words without having to spell out everything.
The key here is to befriend yourself completely. Be the best version of yourself as possible. Stand up for what is right without fear and if or when a fear crops up, befriend yourself even more. Be there for yourself. Give yourself little talks of encouragement and show society that you can stand for what is right, without compromising on your character.
When people see you have the guts to stand on your own, they too will be inspired to do the same.
Have you faced something like this before? What did you do to change the situation? Let us know in the comments below!
Lots of love